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Whether Single or in a Relationship, Flirting is Good For Your Health by Joy M. Nordenstrom, CMM, MBA

If you are single or in a relationship, it is paramount that you know how to flirt. It not only improves your relationships with others, it also improves your physical and emotional health. A prerequisite to the following lessons is having an understanding of what flirting is not before elaborating on what it is. It is not a game you need to master.... [Read more of this article]

5 Ways to Stay Cool in the Face of Another’s Emotional Reactivity

I had a recent experience that tested my patience and challenged me to remain calm in the face of aggressive, critical words.  My initial instinct (my primal lizard brain in activation) was to fight back, defend and point out the ways in which this person had totally missed the mark.  But I didn’t.  This choice would have flown in the face of all... [Read more of this article]

Have You and Your Partner Had a Quickie Lately?

I bet you thought I was referring to a ravenous sexual encounter. As nice as that kind of “quickie” is, in this case I’m talking about another important method of couples connection;  a relationship check-in which is not only important but imperative to a healthy and connected relationship.  Without it, resentment and hurt feelings can spiral... [Read more of this article]

6 Ways to Stop Worrying About the Small Stuff

As much as worry, fear and anxiety have a way of making us believe we have been brought to our knees, much of the worry, fear and anxiety we feel is ultimately not really about life changing, catastrophic things – but rather…the small stuff.  It’s not to say that life doesn’t have a way of hurling incredibly challenging fast balls at us that... [Read more of this article]

El Libro de Terapia Prematrimonial para Parejas por Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

The Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples is now available in Spanish!El Libro de Terapia Prematrimonial para Parejas es el primero en mi serie de libros de terapia “Therapy-At-Home Workbooks®” que proveen una alternativa a la terapia tradicional que es costo efectiva, guiada por una terapeuta y con la facilidad de hacerlo uno mismo en compañía... [Read more of this article]

Relationship Advice: My boyfriend is spending less time with me

My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 17 and now we are 28, off and on at first but steady and living with each other for the past 6 years. We’ve had a great relationship and are very close but recently things have changed. My boyfriend changed his career about 2 years ago and we are now on completely different schedules, I work the... [Read more of this article]

Pet the Lizard by Rick Hanson, PhD

I’ve always liked lizards.Growing up in the outskirts of Los Angeles, I played in the foothills near our home. Sometimes I’d catch a lizard and stroke its belly, so it would relax in my hands, seeming to feel at ease.In my early 20′s, I found a lizard one chilly morning in the mountains. It was torpid and still in the cold and let me pick... [Read more of this article]

Getting Married? Be Clear on Your Marriage Expectations

If you’re planning to marry, you may be swept up in all sorts of yummy brain chemistry as you’re probably in the honeymoon phase of your relationship.  As much as it feels good and the loving feelings towards your fiance can seemingly lift you to the moon, this inherently causes many couples to forget to have some pretty important conversations. ... [Read more of this article]

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